an inside outside job

This moment I am in right now is sweet...sweet because I have set a boundary.  Life has tossed me to and fro enough that I have finally had enough of certain things to the point of putting my foot down.  It’s an inside outside job. I have spent many a year falling prey to comparisons and finding myself coming up short.  It’s generally my own self assessment that determines another to be better than me...or another's experience of life to be somehow better than my own.  It has been a painful, abusive, devaluing way of treating myself.  In this sweet moment I feel acceptance and self-forgiveness for the pain this habit has caused me...and in doing so feel somewhat freed of its possessive hold on me.  Simultaneously I feel done with allowing anyone outside of myself to do the same.  I have lost my tolerance for it.  I feel this new tender but firm “no” inside that time will serve to strengthen provided I persist in vigilance and firmness in my word.  I pray for clarity of sight and assertion of voice.  Thank you.